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The word Freundin can mean either a girlfriend or a female friend. In some cases, they can be distinguished by using the possessive pronoun to refer to the former:

Ich habe mit meiner Freundin (girlfriend) gegessen.

Ich habe mit einer Freundin (female friend) gegessen.

Sometimes, though, this isn't possible. For example, how to translate these sentences?

-- How was your trip?
-- Great, I've met a new (girl)friend.

A drink for my (girl)friend too, please.

How is this distinction usually made?

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If you order a drink for your friend, it is no one's business whether she is your girlfriend or not. –  Phira Jun 5 '11 at 17:04
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@thei: An unambiguous phrase would be useful e.g. if the bartender was her insane ex. –  Tim N Jun 5 '11 at 17:06
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I guess sometimes you might want to establish subtly that you are or aren't a couple. –  misterben Jun 5 '11 at 17:10
    
@tim Then I suggest you go to another bar. –  user245 Jun 5 '11 at 19:43
    
The same problem (albeit less severe) exists in English, too: sometimes, “girl friend” (as opposed to “girlfriend”) is used, but sounds identical. –  Konrad Rudolph Jun 6 '11 at 9:06

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When it is really very important to make the distinction, I might use:

meine Freundin

vs.

eine Freundin von mir

In the restaurant situation, you might consider switching to

ein Glas Wein für die Dame hier

or much more frequently

Könnten wir noch ein Glas Wein haben?

and sort out the details when the wine is brought to the table.

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Thanks, I hadn't thought of "eine Freundin von mir". It solves the problem nicely. Do you know of a similar way to unambiguously mean "girlfriend", or does "meine Freundin" already accomplish that? –  Tim N Jun 5 '11 at 17:16
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@Tim "Meine Freundin" is ambiguous, you will have to resort to body language if you want to make a point. –  Phira Jun 5 '11 at 17:43
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Hast du in jeder Stadt eine andere Freundin? ;) –  splattne Jun 5 '11 at 18:43
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@splattne: Das wäre "eine meiner Freundinnen". –  Phira Jun 5 '11 at 18:44

For the first example, you can use the same means of distinction:

-- Wie war deine Reise?
-- Toll, ich habe eine neue Freundin kennengelernt. (a new female friend)

-- Wie war deine Reise?
-- Toll, ich habe meine neue Freundin kennengelernt. (your new girlfriend)

Beware, though, that the latter also implies that she still is your girlfriend.

(Although "getroffen" would be the more literal translation for "met", I'd choose "kennengelernt" here.)

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+1 for pointing out the "treffen" vs. "kennenlernen" thing! "Treffen" is only a good translation of "to meet", if you mean "to run into someone" or "to meet at an appointed time/place" - whenever "to meet" refers to getting aquainted, use "kennenlernen" –  Mac Sep 30 '11 at 8:26

Well if she is a close friend, you can say

Meine gute Freundin

And if is not (or you don't want to share that information), you can say

Meine Bekannte

Or you could be more specific about where you know her from

Meine Kollegin
Meine Kommilitonin
Meine Schulfreundin

As for ordering something for your female company, it is relatively uncommon to communicate the nature of your relationship.

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Bei "meine Bekannte" muss ich unweigerlich an Rüdiger Hoffmann denken. ^^ –  ladybug Jun 7 '11 at 15:18
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Beware of "Bekannte". This word may be understood as "a girl I had sex with, but do not care about much" –  Ingo Sep 8 '11 at 15:02

thei's answer is very good if you're talking to someone not knowing who your girlfriend is. If you're talking to Tom, and Tom know that Mary is you girlfriend, then you can also say

meine Freundin Alicia

and it will be clear that this is just a female friend of yours.

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You could also say

meine feste Freundin

when talking about your girlfriend and

eine Freundin or meine Freundin

when talking about a female friend.

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"Meine feste Freundin" is probably good. If I used just "(m)eine Freundin" to talk about female friends, it would still be ambiguous, though. –  Tim N Jun 5 '11 at 17:51
    
This is what I've learned, "feste Freundin" for someone with whom you have special relationship. –  user508 Jun 5 '11 at 18:11
    
"Meine feste Freundin" is definitely not ambiguous, but it sounds a bit formal. "Meine Freundin" will easily be ambiguous. –  Hendrik Vogt Jun 5 '11 at 19:02
    
@Hendrik: I concur. "Meine feste Freundin" is not formal in the sense that you would use it at a business dinner - it is rather something that I would expect to hear from an eighth-grader who's trying to sound important... –  Oliver Giesen Jun 9 '11 at 1:42

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