A common German valediction at the end of emails or letters is dein/e, e.g:

Dein Luli.

In my language, this is only used for one’s boyfriend or girlfriend. Is it acceptable to use that valediction for other people, i.e. non-romantic friends in German?

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There is absolutely nothing wrong in German with using the valediction dein for anybody who you would address using the more informal du second person pronoun. It can be used towards the significant other, good friends, not-so good friends, family and even colleagues (assuming that Sie is not standard at your workplace).

When a letter or email is addressed to more than one person, one would use euer instead. And if you use the formal second person pronoun Sie but still want to indicate some sort of closeness, using Ihr … is also fine.

While a certain degree of closeness is associated with this type of valediction (i.e. you wouldn’t use Ihr if writing to a bank) there are much more intimate valedictions available.


In theory, dein/e can indeed be used in the suggested context.

In practice, this valediction seems to have largely fallen out of use at least among the younger generations. I exchange plenty of (electronic, but following the same form for written content as physical) letters, and I think I have never seen the valediction dein/e in that context, while (viele/liebe/herzliche) Grüße, bis bald, and plenty others are commonly used.

There is indeed one class of letters that routinely uses Ihr/e. Those are usually advertisements whose (alleged) senders try to force a sense of familiarity onto the recipient. Still, they are not trying to insinuate a romantic relationship.


"Dein" is used with people one is "close to." This includes, but is not limited to, significant others. It would normally be used to one's children (one might address parents, teachers, or other "older" people as Sie), but close friends would also be addressed as "du" or "dein."

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    "one would address parents as Sie": really? Ich kann es kaum glauben.
    – TonyK
    Commented Sep 30, 2016 at 17:36
  • @TonyK: That was true of people my age (59). Maybe you come from a different generation.
    – Tom Au
    Commented Sep 30, 2016 at 17:37
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    Well, you say your parents aren't German, and I can believe that some governesses insisted on 'Sie'. But parents? Even 50 years ago?
    – TonyK
    Commented Sep 30, 2016 at 17:39
  • @TonyK: On the one hand, I agree with you, on the other hand, I know of instances where parents were rederred to as Herr Vater and Frau Mutter, respectively, although that does not necessarily imply also using Sie. Commented Oct 1, 2016 at 3:31

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